Behavioral and Emotional Change: Often many of us are not consciously aware of how we respond or behave in a particular context. Many of us are, for better or worse. Some people hold the belief that behaviours and emotions just happen to them and this is outside of their control. Another perspective offers the suggestion that people behave a particular way in the belief this will give them what they want, or will fulfill an intention of some sort. Pick a particular context where you would rather behave differently, in a more useful way for you. This may be with a particular person or group of people, a certain environment or cultural behaviour. Reframing your behaviour through specific NLP processes will allow you flexibility and choice over how you behave at any given time.You may choose the different behaviour as a once off or as a permanent change.
Emotions are often packaged a particular way in a persons internal representational system. Unpacking the emotion and re-packing it in a more desirable and useful way gives further choice and flexibility. Recalling particular situations where you experienced the original emotion and re-coding it with the changed emotion can change the original experience and offer other useful information. Simply experiencing the emotion in sensory terms rather than in non sensory specific terms can often changes the experience of that emotion. For example; possible descriptions for the emotion happy. Non sensory specific When I am sitting at the beach, watching a sunset with my partner, I feel happy and its good. Sensory specific I label the emotion happy when I see a pleasing picture, hear the sounds of the ocean, hear my partners voice, feel the sea spray on my face and experience sensations that are light and even in my lower stomach. Obviously we would not actually describe this way in conversation.
However, being aware of how we experience happy in our internal representations offers valuable information if we would like to experience happy more often and across a broader range of contexts. Creating choice, change and flexibility in our behaviour and emotions in the home, in relationships, in parenting, at work, socially and culturally promotes fantastic self fulfillment and richness. Combined with state management, you will have the choice over any experience, conversation, situation and event. This is a most liberating experience, highly recommended.
